The reality of bullying is complex, because the process by which one child makes another feel inferior takes on different nuances. Sometimes harassment does not take the form of verbal violence, but of permanent indifference.
This happens, for example, when a child suffers the effect of social exclusion by other peers who do not let him belong to the group. This situation becomes prolonged from repeated acts at different times, which have a similar intention.
Social isolation in the classroom
This type of indirect harassment sometimes takes longer to identify than that which is carried out directly. Although teachers do perceive the signs of this reality when teams are formed in the classroom to carry out group dynamics. This isolation can also be perceived at recess , when the student is routinely separated from the main group.
This bullying directly alters the routine of a child who experiences this social void in games with others. Perhaps you know the story of a child who was not frequently invited to children’s birthday parties. This type of situation is characterized by the lack of empathy with the other . This emptiness damages the self-esteem of those who feel invisible in the eyes of their peers.
And yet, at times the responsibility for the situation seems to be placed on the victim himself. This is the case when it is deduced that she prefers to be alone or that she is too shy. This type of social harassment is masked when the true intentions of this way of acting are not expressed with sincerity.
How social harassment manifests
Why does this type of harassment so directly affect the self-esteem of those who suffer this indifference? The human being is social by nature from childhood: integration enhances the well-being of children who share a symmetrical relationship based on equality and respect. On the contrary, obstacles in relationships with others increase loneliness and sadness. This type of harassment takes different forms: ridiculing someone, damaging their reputation through lies or conditioning third parties not to be friends of the victim .
The desire to belong to a group and to interact with others becomes a cause of suffering for those who experience the effects of social exclusion. Others do not know that child as he is, but they judge him based on prejudices and stereotypes that label him . Generally, this type of circumstance occurs in the context of the group in which there are different roles that prolong this situation of sustained harassment over time.